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After five minutes, I felt I'd known him for years. 'Typically, it takes weeks or months before most of us feel truly comfortable with a new person,' says Ori.
We were the only people who'd failed to dress up (me because I didn't know I was supposed to, and him because he thought it was silly).Because another key element in clicking is proximity. After years of sharing a large office with her colleague Steve, he moved to the desk opposite hers.Studies have found that genuine cheek-by-jowl proximity is more likely to result in genuine rapport, which may explain the number of unlikely romances that form on TV shows such as I'm A Celebrity... They started chatting, which turned to flirting, and soon they were kissing at the office party. 'But if I hadn't had all those little chances to chat to him during the day, I'd never have got to know him properly,' she admits.But sometimes this process is greatly accelerated and the connection seems to form almost magically - we call this "quick-set intimacy".' evidence suggests this sort of bonding and disclosure is vital for a click, romantic or otherwise.Members of a dating site who shared more personal information about themselves online were more likely to experience successful dates.But on a socially acceptable level, 'allowing yourself to be vulnerable helps the other person to trust you, precisely because you are putting yourself at an emotional, psychological, or physical risk' says Ori.'When you're both candid in revealing who you are, you create an environment that can lead to an instant connection - a click.' It works, too, in a romantic context.
Admittedly, my first husband and I were horribly ill-suited.
I've had many conversations after a bottle of Pinot too many when the semi-stranger at the party seems like the most fascinating individual on earth, and I'm convinced I'm wittier than Joan Rivers.
But true resonance has to happen when you're sober - that's when you know you've really got a click.
'The old adage that familiarity breeds contempt just isn't true,' adds Ori.
'In fact, familiarity breeds regard.' But surely if clicking with someone was just a matter of proximity, we'd all enjoy magical rapport with our desk-mates and never fully connect with friends who live abroad?
There's a fine line between charming openness and wildly inappropriate revelations.